Proper psychologically grown child believes in better answering by. better questioning. Proper psychologically grown child believes in social(knowledge) by respecting tamas(antisocial)(ignorance). So parents must learn to teach "what not to do" at first before indoctrinating into "what to do".

     Improper psychologically grown childhood is because of parental failure.
     Proper psychologically grown child believes in the ultimate by respecting the end.
     Proper psychologically grown child  respects some argument for heating(conflicting) up diverse parties at first and believes in one truth which appears as different at next.
      Proper psychologically grown child gets "carrot and stick" upbringing.